We have all at one time or another wanted something. Sometimes it is the rent to keep a roof over our heads or a person in our lives. Whether it is a new being, or an already formed partner, the hunger for something or someone can be overwhelming for the best of us. Love is one of the forces that will take hold of us in a grip of passion that makes us go weak at the knees.
Wanting is one thing, getting what we want is another. We have been taught that we need to give up our desires for ourselves and focus on the needs of others. This is the way our society is structured. That giving up what is important to us is the noble way. I have given away things that were important to me in the past. Most of the time and when I did so, I felt the sense a deep sense of loss. I stuffed the feeling away because I thought I was doing the right thing. I was at a get-together where the speaker of the day talked about giving in order to get. She said that she would give and give and when she wanted something, the recipient of her generosity cannot help but give back out of obligation. Our world is filled with this type of altruism. People who give in order to guilt others into giving back. Is it because we are uncomfortable in receiving that we do this tit-for-tat type of giving?
For most of us accepting kindness is like unto death. We would rather lose an arm before we subject ourselves to the act of opening that arm to accept kindness that we would call charity. It made me wonder if everyone is giving and no one wants to receive graciously, does this not leave an imbalance in the world’s energy. When we give and we get a feeling of satisfaction from that activity, we need to give others the same satisfaction when we are open to receive from them.
One of the rules of abundance is to be open to receive, without question. And without guilt. When we do so the light of abundance will flood across the planet and we will see the dawn of abundance flow across our planet.
Ways to open ourselves to increased abundance are to accept that charity is good. “For the greatest of these is charity”. Charity is the act of lovingly giving and receiving. It is to be as opened to receiving as we are to giving.
Imagine that your inner child needs the thing you are being given. Most of us will accept kindness without seeing it as charity, if we are receiving for someone else. Our inner child is starved for the kindness that we are refusing.
I know that it is important for us to be seen as successful and not need anything. But we all need something and in this time of so much financial uncertainty, being open to receive will allow the altruistic energy of abundance to flow around the planet once more. I think we have learned from our past of over indulgence. I think we are ready to have what we need and a little more. Don’t you?
Sonia Nadina Haynes is author of The Power Of Money, How You See Money Is How You See Yourself. Available through Balboa Press.