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The Addictive Thrill Of Fear, How to break away

I used to love roller coasters. My family and I lived in Brooklyn, New York. Every Sunday, we would go to Coney Island. My favourite thing to do was to ride the roller coasters. The thing that attracted me to the roller coasters was the excitement of terror as I careened down the steep, rickety, seemingly dangerous tracks. The cars would be full of excited individuals old and young, sitting in anticipation of the imagined danger that we were in from the violently shaky machine that threatened to fall apart and throw us to our death.

One day as the cars rattled along the track, I became aware of the energy that was running through the group as it anticipating the imagined danger to come. We had created an illusion upon which to ride. As the cars got to the top of the ride, I thought, “Why am I screaming?” “I wonder what would happen if I did not scream?” I disconnected from the network of fear. I experienced the roller coaster as an observer and found that the only thing that made the event exciting was the mass hysteria that I had allowed myself to be locked into. That day at seventeen years old I disconnected from the fear matrix and never saw the world the same again. The times that I get caught in the hysteria, I feel, are when I am supporting the people around who require me to be small, weak and insignificant. I can see clearly the role that I play in the human matrix.

We each of us have chosen a side in this battle towards self-realization. Some of us use religion as the source of our comfort and security, while others use spirituality. We are grossly divided in our opinions of what should be done to ‘fix’ the world. We view each other as evil or not “in the light”. We judge each other’s spiritual progress while convincing ourselves that we are not judgmental. We tell others that they are devoid of light, which is why they are ill or in emotional distress. It is easy for us to look out at others and see what is wrong in the other person, as opposed to tangibly looking within and see the false truths that we feed ourselves about our lives.

Our self-denial is being used by fear to segregate us. We are being dragged in a wave of destruction toward the cliff of our own demise by our self-denial. What do you fear more than anything? This is a question that must be answered if mankind is to separate itself from the path of annihilation. When you are told that you are too confrontational and in people’s faces with your message. You should ask, “What makes my message so confrontational?” What makes this information and these questions so frightening? Is it that we are afraid of being removed from the cocoon of denial?

The illusion exists. Human history shows the extent of the illusion; A country is given permission to invade another in the name of planetary security to destroy weapons of mass destruction. The invasion occurred and the weapons of mass destruction were not found or used. If these weapons were found, what would the invading country do? Would they turn them upon the planet because it knows that humanity will follow it to the ends of the earth? The world economy faltered and is still struggling to recover. Then came SARS and other health scares. Are these events truth or another illusion?

When will we focus within and see that this is all designed to separate us from our truth? As we are being distracted from our personal power, by fearful world events we cannot spend our time moving toward our light.
We become distracted. We are distracted. How do we get off the rollercoaster of hysteria?
The only way is to move into the fetal position of our own inner search. Try not to make being “Spiritual” a status symbol the way, in the past we made being “religious” a status symbol.

Humility is a clear and fresh experience. Humility requires nothing to cause it to be. It is. We humans use each other’s pain and distress as the template from which we judge our own self-realization. We need someone less than ourselves in order for us to feel important. We need to have others less evolved than ourselves or in pain in order for us to feel important. This is the thing that fear uses to keep control over us. The social media shows powerful evidence of such. Shaming others from the anonymity of a computer screen. Look within and see, how many of us need to see our spouses and families in weaker states than ourselves in order to feel important?

We are not here to help anyone to become enlightened, we are here to see if we can consciously disconnect ourselves from the matrix of fear and see the illusion, as it is, an illusion.

Let’s give it a try, shall we?

Sonia Nadina helps you get through the layers of false information you have amassed upon your psyche over your life. She uses her ability to see to assist you to heal using the energy of your guides and the spirit and souls of your loved ones. During your session, your loved one will show up and share information that is relevant to you and supportive of your journey.

5 Ways Affirmations

5 Ways To Use Positive Affirmations To Enhance Your Life

Affirmations, self-talk, we use these every moment of the day and we use affirmations to motivate our progress through life. We say, “I am popular” and the universe says, “Yes you are”. The universe gives the same answer regardless of the self-talk we have with ourselves. The universe does not hear the negative so when we say, I don’t want debt, it replies, yes you want debt. There is a lot of information telling us how to manipulate the energy around us to get what we want. Ironically, energy although we can use it to work for us, is impossible to manipulate. Energy is our servant. It follows the workings of our unconscious and conscious mind. Whatever we want whether we are aware of it or not, goes out as a request to the universe and a response is returned in answer to our request. Most times, when we get what we think we’ve asked for, it shows up in a form we did not want. But our affirmations especially the unconscious, speaks louder than we are aware of.

Many of us see affirmations as operating only in the positive. But we affirm our lives always. Five ways that you can turn affirmations into a positive force for your lives will help you to find clarity.

One

Always be aware that you are in constant communication with the universe. Whatever you think is being interpreted every moment. A thought that is unsupportive to your needs, will show up as a failed experience.

Two 

Be aware that your childhood experiences do influence your mindset regardless of what you think you want. Go back to your childhood and look at the experiences you encountered. Then look at your life. If the two match, you are truly using your negative story to live your life now. For example if your parents struggled for money, you will usually, as the adult see money as a challenge to achieve. Coming from a wealthy family does not make you immune to limiting mindset about money. Coming from a wealthy family may make you feel shame about being “lucky”. The same as coming from a struggling family may leave you with a limited self-worth.

Three

Whenever you catch yourself with a negative or unsupportive thought, counter it with a positive thought. Agree with the negative and then respond, “Yes you are right, but let us see it this way”. Imagine your mind like an errant child. When you fight against your child by trying to get it to do what you want, it rebells.  When you are kind and positive with your child, it will respond in a positive way. Think about your mind as a well loved child will help you to shift into positivity.

Four

Being negative is not a bad thing. It shows you what you need to look at in order to have the life you want. Self-judgement is the addiction which corrals the human spirit. Becoming aware of when you are in self-judgement is important to your spiritual and emotional evolution.

Five

Celebrate when you have done something good. When you have overcome the negative story it is necessary to shine the light of approval on your accomplishment. Just like a child needs emotional encouragement, so do adults. Most times we cannot get encouragement from others so it is important to be the parent to our own inner child and give ourselves the encouragement that we deserve.

This world is all about negativity. In order to feel good it is necessary for us to feel bad and vice versa. Although it is frustrating, this is the only way to understand the human experience. Appreciate the negative affirmations, because it will lead you to the positive.

Sonia Nadina Haynes is an intuitive, emotional healer. She uses her gift of insight to help you shift through to a life that fits your dreams. Check out her latest book on Amazon. Generate Happiness through Positive Affirmations.

Website: www.soniahaynes.com  – Email: contact@soniahaynes.com