Author Archives: Sonia Nadina Haynes

About Sonia Nadina Haynes

Author, Emotional Healer, Intuitive Guide, Healing Workshop Facilitator. Sonia Nadina uses her powerful insights to support the lives of her clients. She helps them to step into their personal power.

Would You Take What Aliens Give?

What would you do if aliens appeared in our skies tomorrow? Would you give your life over to them, would you react in fear of the unknown? The human race is moving at breakneck speed towards a future we may not be ready for. We have not fully anchored ourselves in our present lives as yet. By this I mean, we still starve others on the planet so we can boast about how little we paid the artisan for his or her work. We proudly support charity which requires a perpetuation of the needy.
Billionaires fight against raising the minimum wage because they say it would hit their billionaire bottomline. What is it that cause us to cling to the primitive fear of lack by fearing competition? What is competition anyway? It is the fear that your tribe will not have enough so you reject ones from another tribe. Or you see superiority in another but push them away for fear they may take what you perceive you may lose. By the way that means you see yourself as inferior. One family in the wild may not survive as well as multiple families together, called a tribe. If we choose to work together for the betterment of mankind without energetically creating more charity cases, we will uplift not only ourselves, but the very people we are holding down so we can feel better for helping them.
I think the only reason for aliens to appear in our skies would be because they have something to share with us that will improve our place in the universe. If aliens appeared on the planet tomorrow, are you ready to step into a future of prosperity, healing and peace? How do you really feel about that?

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Weekly Affirmation – “I am always supported by life.”

We live to experience life. Surrendering to the nature of the universe is necessary for us to thrive. We all have plans and ideas of how we want our lives to be, but there is an energy of balance always at work in our lives.

“If you want to hear god laugh, tell him your plans.”

The Law of Balance flows through our thoughts and actions. I have fallen into worry many times in my life. I have a yearning for my heart’s desire to be fulfilled. But I follow a line of cause and effect from my birth which has taken me along a path where many times am not shown the outcome.

We are asked to trust. Trust that we are following divine process. If I walk back to my birth and follow the path to now, I may see the next step. Am I patient enough to look back? Not really. As there is no time, we are in the eternal moment following our destiny and designing our lives even unconsciously as we go along. I can see your journey, I am just not patient enough to look at mine.

Knowing that you are the tree, with your roots stretched down into your past and your branches reaching up for your divine purpose, you can change the course of your life at any time, like a tree struck by lightening can repair itself and then even grow in a different direction than where it started.

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The Dangers of Comparing Yourself With Others

 

The beauty of all existence
Rests within you
Heaven peers through your two eyes

Compare yourself to another
Watch how quickly the light dies

Thus heaven shows
The healer knows
Unconditional love has no opposites
That is true balance
– Anonymus
It seems that the majority of us constantly view ourselves through the eyes and actions of others. The only creatures, flora or fauna that compare itself with others are humans. We look at the beauty in a flower and wish we could be as beautiful. We look at our predecessors and try to be make ourselves better than they were. This behaviour negatively affects our lives.

What does it do to our psyche when we look to others as the template upon which we fashion ourselves? As children we look to our parents to provide the blueprint for our self-esteem. Comparing ourselves to others cause depression which can lead to negative lifestyles such as drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness and homelessness. When we carry low self-esteem born from comparing ourselves to others, we lose our equilibrium and this affects all aspects of or lives. Ironically, the person we put up on the pedestal may be feeling the same as we do. Most people spend their lives living up to unrealistic goals.

How you avoid the pitfalls of low self esteem? First, positive self-talk is as important as any information from a guru or emotional guide. Self-talk, means the conversation you have with yourself. Low self-esteem comes from negative self-talk.
You are unique. There is no one like you. Even if you try to make the outside of you resemble your heroes what you are inside, emotionally, spiritually and mentally are completely different. Your life story is unique to you. Even with siblings your emotional growth will be different based on where you are in the birth lineup. Your experience with friends will be different because your friends are also unique.

Take the time to formulate positive self-talk. Counter the negative self talk with “and”. For example, I am such a ditz. Improve that self talk with Yes and I am focused in other ways. So, “I am such a ditz. Yes, and I am make the best cupcakes I have ever tasted, and my friends tell me so.”
You are not fighting against or disagreeing with the negative self talk you are agreeing that that is what you think at that moment, and you are also showing your consciousness another more positive point of view.

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Our Innocent Search Of Meaning

By the time we reach late teens, we have formed our belief system. Whom to believe and what we accept as important to our spiritual growth. People of many faiths spend more time searching for something to believe and most times come up short.

I met a self-proclaimed agnostic who was an atheist, before that he was a Zen Buddhist, and grew up a Christian. When I met the agnostic he was in his forties. This man was highly intelligent. He was genius, mathematician, scientist, musician, author, logistician and artist. I asked him how he arrived at the decision to embrace agnosticism. Unwilling to speak about his beliefs, but mellowed over a glass of wine he told me of the time in his childhood where he wanted something very badly. He prayed to God, but did not get what he wanted. It wasn’t anything as frivolous as a bike or a toy. He wanted to feel safe in his home and he wanted the piece of his heart that was stolen returned. He did not get what he wanted, nor was the hole in his heart repaired. His faith in the God of his mother slowly resolved. But he knew there was something out there. He knew that there had to be a foundation to his humanity, he just could not get the answer that satisfied his curiosity. Later on in his life after his first marriage failed, he decided emphatically that there cannot be a God because if this being existed, He would not allow his heart to break again. He believed in love and God and peace and joy. He knew that there was more to his existence. Being a genius he searched in science, mathematics and eventually metaphors to find his answers and without the resounding confirmation, he slowly lost faith until in a fit of anger he declared, “There is no God!”.

Within each of is the knowledge that there is more to us than we are able to see. We want to know that we are not alone. Our proclamation to the world is often times different from that which is in our minds. He eventually came to finally deciding that maybe God does exist, he just hadn’t found proof that he could use to satisfy the deep longing within, so he chose agnosticism. Later in his life just before his death, he declared, that he was happy to go, because as he said, he wanted to know which was right. He wanted to find what he was unable to see in life, he hoped he would find in death the answer to his question, “What form did God take?” Upon his death, many years after I met him, he walked fearlessly into the night. I observer his spirit get up from his corporeal self, he spoke to me, turned and walked out the hospital room to prove his theory.

We spend our entire lives being afraid of knowing and also in great need of knowing if God exists. We KNOW there is something out there, because how is it that miracles happen every moment of every day, spontaneously? Life, for one is the miracle that is indefinable. Disease is another. How is it that our bodies can break down when we do so much to keep it in good shape? How does the salmon and the eagles replenish themselves when it was driven to near extinction?

Our wondering means that we search for meaning. It means that we have a need to know. The answers to our question is as close as our own minds. This next stage in life is for us to start looking in a different place for the God we seek. Instead of looking to the sky, it is time for us to truly go within.

“To see a World in a Grain of Sand,
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand,
And Eternity in an hour.”
– William Blake, Auguries of Innocence.

Change The Programme For Success

The world is reflecting our unconscious belief system. Anger, rage, pain and despair are parts of our inner world which is spilled out into our environment. We’ve used the old ways of doing things and yet they have not been effective because most of us find ourselves struggling to find the foothold out of the pit of despair. Most of us especially the young stepping out into the world are feeling a bit discouraged with the status quo.

I like Albert Einstein’s statement probably said in frustration as he kept doing the same experiment and coming upMP900438811 with the same results, that the sign of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting different result. Eventually we have to shift something in the experiment to change the outcome. We humans have walked the same road, but we have found that this road is a circle. We keep finding ourselves right back where we started. There are many options but out of habit we find ourselves back on the same path doing the circle again.

How can we break away from the old outmoded ways of doing things to find our way to a future where we feel secure and safe? Life today is built on the rules and regulations of the Victorian and Industrial eras which are no longer effective in our technological world. Imagine that we were once physical beings using muscle and brawn to get by and shape our world in a tough terrain where only certain persons have power. Imagine that we have evolved into weightless beings and we are now in a stage where our vibration has elevated and we are charged with using our mental skills. If your body is not able to do strenuous work, and you continue to stress your body out, there will be a point of breaking and you will have to start from scratch, again.

If we don’t get the message then we will keep breaking as we follow the old way, until the pain gets too severe and we decide to change. Life is a scientific experiment. We are here to look at life through experiencing the various stages of being human.

Are you ready to change the programme?

When To Trust Your Psychic

You may have heard this many times before, everyone is a psychic. If that is so then why do we go to see a psychic for energetic and spiritual guidance? A psychic’s skill is developed through many years, he may have been born with a stronger skill because being a psychic is his life’s path. She may have experienced trauma that cracked her open like a dried coconut and she follows her spirit guides to support your healing.

cyrstal ballIt is easy to form distrust in a psychic if you do not use you own radar to suss out whom to trust and whom to stay away from. We all resonate with certain persons. One psychic may be able to connect with you easier that they would with your friend. You have to follow your intuition and your heart to know.

I have had clients contact me concerned that a psychic told them that they have been cursed and will need to be cleared. These people offer to do so for a lot of money. This is the same as going to a financial advisor who leads you to invest in risky stock that do not fit with you, your lifestyle or temperament. Everything is relative. You are asked by your higher self to stop and check in to see if what they are telling you is your truth. As with the financial advisor, someone else may be OK with a risky investment, but if you are not comfortable with it you must listen to your inner voice.

The other challenge with going to an intuitive, psychic, medium – they are all the same to me – are the questions you ask. Most people are embarrassed to ask personal questions and sit in silence waiting for the intuitive to tune into their energy to get to the heart of the matter. Others decide to test the psychic to see if the person is for real. I think doing so is a waste of your money and the practitioner’s time. When you show up to an intuitive it is best to have your questions ready. Some psychics prefer that you not “lead” them with information but wait until they have finished the reading. I like to do readings that way, I usually answer all your questions before you ask them, but keep your list of questions in case we meaning your higher self, guides and I being the conduit, miss anything.

If the session is a mini-reading, then presenting your question in advance will save time.

Now we move to the questions. Many clients who come to me ask, when will I find love, or when will I meet The One? The question should be, Am I energetically ready for the love I want? Being ready for love is as important as finding love or a career or spiritual development.

Contact Sonia for a reading.

Living In The Freeness Society Makes The Rich, Richer

Everywhere we look today, companies except the very wealthy are having free promotions designed to draw the consumer into trying a product or service, free gifts that we usually cannot or have no interest in using. We are now in a world where everyone including the people who can afford it, expect to get what they want for free. Free e-books, free advice, I must admit that I gave away free mantras and free intuitive guidance for several years, following the advice of marketing experts. What I learned from the experience was that giving things away for free create a marketplace where we relinquish our gifts and talents, causing the rich to get richer and the poor to remain poorer. The poor and struggling usually give their products and services away with the hope of gaining a return but there is no return we are usually expected to give more. Read Richard Bach’s Illusions The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah.

Many-dollars-falling-on-womansLately in the news was a story of entitlement, where a high profile family bartering hair dressing services for tickets to an event. Thank goodness that the hairdresser did not decide to take them up on the offer. When someone approaches you to take what you have to offer in trade, think about what you are gaining. A prime example is American economic politics, it is the epitome of the wealthy trading nothing but their position in society for everything we have, our time, our gifts and our spirit.

Is it possible to break this cycle? Of course. Decide to starve before you trade what you have for anything but money. It is reported that the worlds eight richest men have the wealth equal to about half the world’s population. They are wealthy because they are able to get people to work for little and hardly no money. They are able to trade on the misery of the poor. They have taken the land from the world’s most vulnerable leaving them to live in serfdom. One may think that serfdom cannot exist in today’s world, but it does in many different ways.

How do we reverse this destructive energy? We must realize that we have been duped. We were told that money does not matter, that money will not make us happy. The only ones who do not buy into these ideas are the wealthy and the very wealthy. If they can keep us thinking that money is a negative force designed to bring us misery, we will continue to give up our financial birthright  and they will take what we give away. They are wealthy because they are willing to accept our cast-offs. No more apprenticeships to the wealthy

It is necessary for us to start to keep what is ours. It is important that we see money as the tool that it is, that will give us a roof over our heads, food in our bellies and the ability to enjoy the life we dream of living.

Read THE POWER OF MONEY, How You See Money Is How You See Yourself, available on Balboa Press

Embrace The Energy Of The Phoenix

As we slide towards 2017 and reflect on the old year, many of us fell, hard. We fell to health challenges, work stress, and even confusion about our spiritual purpose. Because of our fall some have fallen prey to drug abuse, with many deaths occurring in large cities which can be scary to observe. The reason, I think why so many of us are giving up on life is because we choose to follow the examples of people who may or may not have followed their own rules. Yes, we all have fallen, but we have not given ourselves the opportunity to recover before we got back into the game; because we are afraid of being seen as a loser, called lazy, unmotivated and unsuccessful.

burning-phoenix

We all want to be seen as successful, but we are afraid of the wages of success, but there is a season for everything.

The time of the idea, the beginning.
The time for implementing the idea.
The time of the maturation of the idea.
And the time of stillness as your idea takes shape. This is the time that we fear most, the still time where we wait for our idea and dreams to come into form.

We tend to feel that we have to do something. Relationships are the most scary for experiencing this. Most of us want our relationship to be constantly on the go. We are afraid of the still time, the becoming time because we believe that our lover may lose interest. We are always in a relationship with someone who resinate at the same vibration as we do. So if we are afraid, our lover is also afraid. Our courage is carried by our lover and so is our passion, joy and self-doubt.

In this New Year, it is good to make a commitment to yourself, stay down to perk up. When you feel depressed, sit within the feelings. Allow the scum of despair to surface so you can look at it. You will be the better for it. The boxer who have been knocked down, his manager yells for him to stay down, the referee does a count, these help the boxer to catch his breath and get back into the game. Our phoenix, after falling, stays in the fire and reflects on her life while the embers turned to ashes. Then when she has built her energy, she rose again more splendid and beautiful than before. She fell many times and becomes better than before, each time.

Have you fallen? Did you get up before you had the energy to tackle life again? Give me a call or drop me an email and I will help you gain perspective on the story you are experiencing.

Have An Adventure And Shift Your Life

There is an old movie called Shirley Valentine, many of you may know it, where a housewife in England made the same meal for her family every week. They had chips and egg on Wednesday and steak and chips on Thursday. Mushy peas, with bangers and mash on Mondays and so on, till she felt as if her life was going around in circles like a one-eyed fish. She, after consulting the wall, took it upon herself to change her life. Her family took her for granted and she was feeling invisible. Most people on the planet have lived lives in stasis. Most have never travelled beyond the boundary of their town or village. We eat the same foods and our familiar circle are people with whom we are comfortable. Humans are a nomadic race of beings. This is how we grew and evolved over thousands of years. Ironically, our static lives may have contributed to the overpopulation we see on the planet today. This has left us impatient with ourselves and others we have what I call nervous leg syndrome. Many of us feel squeezed in our lives and are not sure how to shift the energy that will move us forward. o-happy-facebook

You don’t have to move to Greece like Shirley Valentine, buy a red convertible like older men who have been following the rules all their lives and decide to bust out of their uncomfortable cocoons. Shifting your life can be as subtle as moving the crystal that sits on your alter to taking your first vacation in your life. What you can do to shift your life is to try doing something differently. If you cook rice one way, following the instruction on the box, try a new rice cooking recipe. If it does not come out the way you want or expect, make soup to of it. Or move the furniture in your home. From a Feng Shui perspective movement in your home will shift the energy. Open you front door and back door and allow the stagnant energy to run through. Change the colours you wear during the winter. Add a yellow scarf. These things will go a long way to move your life from the state of stagnation into flow.

Try something new, anything. If you are one to over indulge in the holiday season on the delicious sweets and alcohol, instead of berating yourself for what you do, get some B-Complex vitamins and take more during this holiday time. The vitamins will remove the free radicals in your system and maybe even help you to lose your taste for so much of what you crave. Take the vitamins close to when you drink or eat before or after your indulgences.

Going on an adventure does not have to be crazy. If you want to shift your life even just a little, try taking a different path home. You never know it may open the door to new or more love, like Shirley Valentine if that is what you want. Her courageous decision to run away to Greece caused her husband to reflect and take a risk himself. He shifted. You don’t have to do something as drastic as Shirley Valentine because it is a movie, but something ventured will certainly change your life. Enjoy!

Take A Walk In Another Person’s Shoes

Life is contrary. We see a lot of positivity around us, but then the good is is oftentimes defused by random negative acts by people in turmoil. It is easy to turn on each other in hate, but we are told many times that love is the only way to heal and defuse pain. We see the beauty of a service member rush to put out a fire, save a child, support a senior. We see them, wrapped in the shield of power use their power to make the lives of their fellow humans better. We also see them use the shield of power to expose their anger and rage against anyone they perceive to be like them, or represent the face or body type of someone who caused them harm. We see individuals clothed in mental illness share their pain with others through violence.

Most of us choose jobs based on childhood experiences. We protect, save, and feed; we become advocates because in our childhood, we were abused, misunderstood, shunned, and unheard. We in our adult years try to shift the wrong done to us. As adults, if we have not resolved the past pain, we will do to others, what was done to us in the past. It takes a strong individual to look at his past and shift it to help others to heal, without transferring his pain and anger onto others.

Many of our heroes have been transitioning into spirit. They were the ones who courageously faced down the harbingers of malevolent behaviours and triumphed. You know what they did? Our heroes faced the demons within themselves which opened them up to their highest good. This is not to say that we need to go out there and challenge the system.

What I mean is that if we can realize that the system is made up of people, it may force the human members of such organizations to empathize and put themselves in the shoes of the victims and their families.

I still expect and beyond hope for peace on our earth. That is the only way we will heal global warming, injustice, and cruelty. When we are no longer making others wrong, we can see the beauty emitting from ourselves reflected through the eyes of each and every person we meet.