Author Archives: Sonia Nadina Haynes

About Sonia Nadina Haynes

Author, Emotional Healer, Intuitive Guide, Healing Workshop Facilitator. Sonia Nadina uses her powerful insights to support the lives of her clients. She helps them to step into their personal power.

When To Trust Your Psychic

You may have heard this many times before, everyone is a psychic. If that is so then why do we go to see a psychic for energetic and spiritual guidance? A psychic’s skill is developed through many years, he may have been born with a stronger skill because being a psychic is his life’s path. She may have experienced trauma that cracked her open like a dried coconut and she follows her spirit guides to support your healing.

cyrstal ballIt is easy to form distrust in a psychic if you do not use you own radar to suss out whom to trust and whom to stay away from. We all resonate with certain persons. One psychic may be able to connect with you easier that they would with your friend. You have to follow your intuition and your heart to know.

I have had clients contact me concerned that a psychic told them that they have been cursed and will need to be cleared. These people offer to do so for a lot of money. This is the same as going to a financial advisor who leads you to invest in risky stock that do not fit with you, your lifestyle or temperament. Everything is relative. You are asked by your higher self to stop and check in to see if what they are telling you is your truth. As with the financial advisor, someone else may be OK with a risky investment, but if you are not comfortable with it you must listen to your inner voice.

The other challenge with going to an intuitive, psychic, medium – they are all the same to me – are the questions you ask. Most people are embarrassed to ask personal questions and sit in silence waiting for the intuitive to tune into their energy to get to the heart of the matter. Others decide to test the psychic to see if the person is for real. I think doing so is a waste of your money and the practitioner’s time. When you show up to an intuitive it is best to have your questions ready. Some psychics prefer that you not “lead” them with information but wait until they have finished the reading. I like to do readings that way, I usually answer all your questions before you ask them, but keep your list of questions in case we meaning your higher self, guides and I being the conduit, miss anything.

If the session is a mini-reading, then presenting your question in advance will save time.

Now we move to the questions. Many clients who come to me ask, when will I find love, or when will I meet The One? The question should be, Am I energetically ready for the love I want? Being ready for love is as important as finding love or a career or spiritual development.

Contact Sonia for a reading.

Living In The Freeness Society Makes The Rich, Richer

Everywhere we look today, companies except the very wealthy are having free promotions designed to draw the consumer into trying a product or service, free gifts that we usually cannot or have no interest in using. We are now in a world where everyone including the people who can afford it, expect to get what they want for free. Free e-books, free advice, I must admit that I gave away free mantras and free intuitive guidance for several years, following the advice of marketing experts. What I learned from the experience was that giving things away for free create a marketplace where we relinquish our gifts and talents, causing the rich to get richer and the poor to remain poorer. The poor and struggling usually give their products and services away with the hope of gaining a return but there is no return we are usually expected to give more. Read Richard Bach’s Illusions The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah.

Many-dollars-falling-on-womansLately in the news was a story of entitlement, where a high profile family bartering hair dressing services for tickets to an event. Thank goodness that the hairdresser did not decide to take them up on the offer. When someone approaches you to take what you have to offer in trade, think about what you are gaining. A prime example is American economic politics, it is the epitome of the wealthy trading nothing but their position in society for everything we have, our time, our gifts and our spirit.

Is it possible to break this cycle? Of course. Decide to starve before you trade what you have for anything but money. It is reported that the worlds eight richest men have the wealth equal to about half the world’s population. They are wealthy because they are able to get people to work for little and hardly no money. They are able to trade on the misery of the poor. They have taken the land from the world’s most vulnerable leaving them to live in serfdom. One may think that serfdom cannot exist in today’s world, but it does in many different ways.

How do we reverse this destructive energy? We must realize that we have been duped. We were told that money does not matter, that money will not make us happy. The only ones who do not buy into these ideas are the wealthy and the very wealthy. If they can keep us thinking that money is a negative force designed to bring us misery, we will continue to give up our financial birthright  and they will take what we give away. They are wealthy because they are willing to accept our cast-offs. No more apprenticeships to the wealthy

It is necessary for us to start to keep what is ours. It is important that we see money as the tool that it is, that will give us a roof over our heads, food in our bellies and the ability to enjoy the life we dream of living.

Read THE POWER OF MONEY, How You See Money Is How You See Yourself, available on Balboa Press

Embrace The Energy Of The Phoenix

As we slide towards 2017 and reflect on the old year, many of us fell, hard. We fell to health challenges, work stress, and even confusion about our spiritual purpose. Because of our fall some have fallen prey to drug abuse, with many deaths occurring in large cities which can be scary to observe. The reason, I think why so many of us are giving up on life is because we choose to follow the examples of people who may or may not have followed their own rules. Yes, we all have fallen, but we have not given ourselves the opportunity to recover before we got back into the game; because we are afraid of being seen as a loser, called lazy, unmotivated and unsuccessful.

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We all want to be seen as successful, but we are afraid of the wages of success, but there is a season for everything.

The time of the idea, the beginning.
The time for implementing the idea.
The time of the maturation of the idea.
And the time of stillness as your idea takes shape. This is the time that we fear most, the still time where we wait for our idea and dreams to come into form.

We tend to feel that we have to do something. Relationships are the most scary for experiencing this. Most of us want our relationship to be constantly on the go. We are afraid of the still time, the becoming time because we believe that our lover may lose interest. We are always in a relationship with someone who resinate at the same vibration as we do. So if we are afraid, our lover is also afraid. Our courage is carried by our lover and so is our passion, joy and self-doubt.

In this New Year, it is good to make a commitment to yourself, stay down to perk up. When you feel depressed, sit within the feelings. Allow the scum of despair to surface so you can look at it. You will be the better for it. The boxer who have been knocked down, his manager yells for him to stay down, the referee does a count, these help the boxer to catch his breath and get back into the game. Our phoenix, after falling, stays in the fire and reflects on her life while the embers turned to ashes. Then when she has built her energy, she rose again more splendid and beautiful than before. She fell many times and becomes better than before, each time.

Have you fallen? Did you get up before you had the energy to tackle life again? Give me a call or drop me an email and I will help you gain perspective on the story you are experiencing.

Have An Adventure And Shift Your Life

There is an old movie called Shirley Valentine, many of you may know it, where a housewife in England made the same meal for her family every week. They had chips and egg on Wednesday and steak and chips on Thursday. Mushy peas, with bangers and mash on Mondays and so on, till she felt as if her life was going around in circles like a one-eyed fish. She, after consulting the wall, took it upon herself to change her life. Her family took her for granted and she was feeling invisible. Most people on the planet have lived lives in stasis. Most have never travelled beyond the boundary of their town or village. We eat the same foods and our familiar circle are people with whom we are comfortable. Humans are a nomadic race of beings. This is how we grew and evolved over thousands of years. Ironically, our static lives may have contributed to the overpopulation we see on the planet today. This has left us impatient with ourselves and others we have what I call nervous leg syndrome. Many of us feel squeezed in our lives and are not sure how to shift the energy that will move us forward. o-happy-facebook

You don’t have to move to Greece like Shirley Valentine, buy a red convertible like older men who have been following the rules all their lives and decide to bust out of their uncomfortable cocoons. Shifting your life can be as subtle as moving the crystal that sits on your alter to taking your first vacation in your life. What you can do to shift your life is to try doing something differently. If you cook rice one way, following the instruction on the box, try a new rice cooking recipe. If it does not come out the way you want or expect, make soup to of it. Or move the furniture in your home. From a Feng Shui perspective movement in your home will shift the energy. Open you front door and back door and allow the stagnant energy to run through. Change the colours you wear during the winter. Add a yellow scarf. These things will go a long way to move your life from the state of stagnation into flow.

Try something new, anything. If you are one to over indulge in the holiday season on the delicious sweets and alcohol, instead of berating yourself for what you do, get some B-Complex vitamins and take more during this holiday time. The vitamins will remove the free radicals in your system and maybe even help you to lose your taste for so much of what you crave. Take the vitamins close to when you drink or eat before or after your indulgences.

Going on an adventure does not have to be crazy. If you want to shift your life even just a little, try taking a different path home. You never know it may open the door to new or more love, like Shirley Valentine if that is what you want. Her courageous decision to run away to Greece caused her husband to reflect and take a risk himself. He shifted. You don’t have to do something as drastic as Shirley Valentine because it is a movie, but something ventured will certainly change your life. Enjoy!

Take A Walk In Another Person’s Shoes

Life is contrary. We see a lot of positivity around us, but then the good is is oftentimes defused by random negative acts by people in turmoil. It is easy to turn on each other in hate, but we are told many times that love is the only way to heal and defuse pain. We see the beauty of a service member rush to put out a fire, save a child, support a senior. We see them, wrapped in the shield of power use their power to make the lives of their fellow humans better. We also see them use the shield of power to expose their anger and rage against anyone they perceive to be like them, or represent the face or body type of someone who caused them harm. We see individuals clothed in mental illness share their pain with others through violence.

Most of us choose jobs based on childhood experiences. We protect, save, and feed; we become advocates because in our childhood, we were abused, misunderstood, shunned, and unheard. We in our adult years try to shift the wrong done to us. As adults, if we have not resolved the past pain, we will do to others, what was done to us in the past. It takes a strong individual to look at his past and shift it to help others to heal, without transferring his pain and anger onto others.

Many of our heroes have been transitioning into spirit. They were the ones who courageously faced down the harbingers of malevolent behaviours and triumphed. You know what they did? Our heroes faced the demons within themselves which opened them up to their highest good. This is not to say that we need to go out there and challenge the system.

What I mean is that if we can realize that the system is made up of people, it may force the human members of such organizations to empathize and put themselves in the shoes of the victims and their families.

I still expect and beyond hope for peace on our earth. That is the only way we will heal global warming, injustice, and cruelty. When we are no longer making others wrong, we can see the beauty emitting from ourselves reflected through the eyes of each and every person we meet.

You Have The It Factor. Do You Know Yours?

Queen Elizabeth recently turned ninety. When she was born, no-one expected her to become queen. Her father, fourth in line to the throne was emotionally and physically challenged. He was called the reluctant king. No one expected George VI to be king which put Princess Elizabeth further in the back of line to the throne. Because of this she may have enjoyed a much easier childhood than her son Prince Charles. He, seen next in line to inherit the throne as the future king of England and the commonwealth, had a more challenging, responsibility filled childhood.

This goes to show that any one of us can rise to something great, despite our beginnings. Sometimes having a less demanding life can be a blessing to your future accomplishments. From a past life perspective, in many lifetimes, I was born disadvantaged. I was born blind, physically challenged, deaf and mentally challenged. During those lifetimes, I observed the people around me to understand humanity. I saw the best and the worst that human beings could do to each other. This made me wise, amassing knowledge as I incarnated into each subsequent lifetime. This lifetime, I challenged myself to live the experiences I went through in the past. The question for me in this lifetime has been do I understand the human experience.

I firmly believe the children born  with or having developed mental, emotional or physical challenges are like aliens here on the planet, learning about and challenging our humanity. They are here to help us find our light through our treatment of them. Everyone is a potential genius. Everyone is a potential princess or queen. Take Grace Kelly for example. In our present history, is a story of a girl, the only surviver, a shipwrecked child from England washed up on the shores of an African country who married a prince. All things are possible. What are your possibilities?

In the readings I do for you, when I see your full potential, try not to run away in fear. All you have to do is show up to the dance. Princess Elizabeth showed up, made mistakes triumphed and she still stands the longest ruling monarch in Great Britain.

How about you?

 

Sonia Nadina Haynes Emotional Healer, Psychic/Intuitive Coach and author. She helps you to find your inner truth and create the life you want. Are you up for it? Or will you hide out from the greatest life you will every live? Email: contact@soniahaynes.com Website: www.soniahaynes.com

Easter 2016

Good Friday A Day For Sacrifice

I grew up with Good Friday. I cannot say that Good Friday for me was a day for celebration, because I was an impressionable child and I read a lot. My knowledge of the world came from books. I was brought up to believe that Good Friday was a day for sacrifice and the ultimate sacrifice was the man who carried his own cross to the hill of Calvary. The story filled me with dread because of the excessive violence and I saw the parallels to my own life. I could see why people saw the crucifixion story as a story of courage and perseverance. If one was suffering, it was good to see that a God suffered alongside us. That we are not alone. If the great and powerful God could go through such suffering for us then we can endure the little bit of pain we were experiencing.

While I understood the idea of Gods suffering for us. I did not buy into it. I asked, if god was so powerful, why was he so powerless in the face of the Romans? I got a scuff at the back of the head in response. They did not know, so they could not explain it to me.

We obediently followed the symbols, ceremoniously not lighting the fire until noon which was when Christ supposedly died. We were told it would burn his body and cause more pain. It was good for us kids as we got to drink soda, something we did not have very often. Cola Champagne, coco cola, and Ting, a grapefruit pop. We ate easter bun and  cheese from the yellow and red tin. We went to church. My imagination opened in frightful ways, imagining the man Jesus forced to drag the heavy cross after he had been tortured, along the dusty road struggling to stay upright, people yelling at him, the Romans beating and prodding him, the crown of thorns jammed onto this head hurting him as he struggled the dusty road up the hill to his eventual demise. It was like our grandmother sending us to cut the switch she would use to beat us. We had to carry the tool of our own punishment to the executioner.

I imagined Jesus laying down for the soldiers to hammer the large rusty nails into his hands and then his feet. I imagined the weight of his body pulling on the nails as the cross was being lifted, blood dripping baptizing the ones with the job of raising the cross. I imagined the extreme pain he would have experienced. While there on the cross Jesus forgave his torturers. I imagined, with extreme dread his mother and disciples standing helplessly trying to save their own lives, watched as his essence drained away in the blood dripping from his hands and feet. I imagined the people fearfully repenting their decision to send Jesus to the cross and them screaming for him to get off the cross. You have done all these miracles, you brought the dead from the grave, save yourself. Yes, I wondered why did Jesus not save himself, if he was so powerful. I had no answer. I imagined the earthquake when Jesus died and the sound of the curtains in the temple rending with a terrible sound that echoed around the area and the dead raising up to walk the street. I wonder if that is where zombies came from? My little mind was filled with questions and no answers. So I turned to observe the people around me. The ones who touted the story, justifying the glory of violence as the end to the means of making our lives better. I watched closely. I paid attention. But to no avail. I did not see the purpose to the violence that they sold.

I enjoyed the treats, though. I liked stories so I took in the storytelling. I eventually saw it as stories, because the people who were abusing us were not changed by the blood of christ nor did they seem to recognize the sacrifice that was made for them. Or at least I don’t think they seemed grateful enough to change their ways and become more giving and kind. I figured that Jesus failed in his mission, poor Sod.

Today, I see Good Friday as a symbol of our personal crucifixion. The pain we cause ourselves out of guilt and a sense of obligation to someone else’s expectation. People hooked on drugs and going through their own self-imposed crucifixion. People locked in mental and emotional disease have thrown themselves into their own moment on the cross.  Will they die? If they die, will the evidence that they existed be there, except for the knowledge of their existence to the people close to them?  Did Jesus die in vain? Are we continuing along the path to calvary, carrying our own cross to prove that we are worthy of life? It was already done. Jesus made the sacrifice. He needs us to live to find peace and forgive ourselves for what we feel we did wrong.

Good Friday to me is the end of the beginning. It is the completion of a cycle of pain and self-negation. Each day when we wake up in anger, in self-doubt, in self-hate, we deny the magic of our own inner child’s sacrifice for our own salvation. Find the way to create peace within your self and allow the healing to begin today, this Good Friday, a day of symbolic sacrifice.

 

Sonia Nadina Haynes, life coach and emotional healer. Her intention is to assist you to live your life well. www.soniahaynes.com

Shaman Story

Mystical Experiences Without Fanfare

Most of us rely on the visual or audial for validation of the existence of other worlds. Eastern European, Asian and First Nations mysticism gained traction in our society because of the pump and circumstances displayed for all to see. Smudging, ceremony, dance and drumming give us the authenticity we require to know that god exists. We have a visual expectation of how a shaman should appear and sound and accept the authenticity of the individual’s gifts based on their appearance. My great grandmother, Muma Gayle looked like an ordinary person. She had her head wrapped in a red and white, stiffly starched, plaid cotton headdress, like the senior women in the village. She dressed in layers of clothing in the heat of the day but all the other women did the same. She had a clay pipe which she smoked up until her one hundred and seventh year when she decided to take her leave from this state of existence. Many of the elder women in the village and the villages around smoked a clay or corncob pipe.

Her daughter, my grandmother (granny) Emma Haynes, nee Gayle did the same. Both were powerful medicine women in our community. Neither tried to convince others of their pedigree or their power. I remember Muma calling me from inside her house, even though I tried to hide from her, which left me wondering how she knew I was there. Emma Haynes was the same. One Sunday, my sister and I were home alone, we might have been sick, when we decide to pick tangerines from the tree that grew along the path that lead to and from our wattle adobe house. The tangerine tree was very tall and gave fruit as big as a grown person’s hand. We had taken all the fruit from the lower branches and the sweetest and biggest fruit were high up on the top branches, out of reach.

Granny was called to go see someone who was dealing with an impending difficult birth leaving us to cool our heels at home. We were bored. Conversation turned to the tangerine tree and how we would get the fruit from so high up. A pole did not work so my sister decided to climb partway up the tree to improve her reach. Before she left, granny had told us to stay away from the tree, as if she knew what was on our minds.

My sister climb the trunk of the tree and was half the way up, about ten feet off the ground when I saw a large green lizard on the branch below her. It was angrily shifting from red to green to black, flicking its tongue, snapping its jaw and slowly stalking her. She looked down saw the lizard and freaked out.

“I am going to get the ladder.” I yelled.

As I turned to run for the ladder, she let go of her hold of the tree trunk, falling onto the rocks at the base of the tree. She hit her head and passed out. Boy, I was worried. I brought her to and helped her into the kitchen where I mixed up my grandmother’s trauma brew and gave it to her. She recovered with time to spare before our grandmother returned home. We agreed not to keep our adventure to ourselves.

“I told you not to climb that tree!” She screamed at us as she walked into the yard.

We were in shock. How did she know? We tried to see if she might have observed us from where she was, but we could not prove if she was a witch or just clever. That was my childhood. Strange and sometimes crazy mystical experiences without fanfare or labels.

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Political Correctness makes Negative Behaviour

Have you ever tried to cut your own hair or trim a hedge in your garden? You have in your mind the exact shape and length you want the cut to be. You trim one side and then attack the opposite side to balance off the cut. When you look at your hair in the mirror, it seems unbalanced to you. Of course, we are our own critic. In an attempt to create the perfect cut, we see the slight imbalance in our haircut and attempt to fix it. We cut the other side trying to even out the cut and create a total mess. Soon we have cut our hair so short that we have to go to an expert to get it styled in a way that we did not want. The idea for this blog came through a conversation where several people shared their stories about ‘the hair cut’. One lady shared how her mom tried to cut her bangs and left a jagged mess before giving up trying to even out the mistake she had made.

We live in a world that exists in polar opposites. We have the North Pole and the South Pole. We have east and west and each is different, with its own climate, land mass and animals. This contrast makes our world an interesting and varied place. Only one part of the earth can be exposed to the light of the sun. The other, opposite side will always be in darkness, unless there are two suns shining at opposite sides of the world at the same time, and even then some part of the earth will be in partial darkness. This is the same for all of us. Even when we are in a room surrounded by light on all sides, the mass that we are, dark matter, will split the light and cause it to flow around us, thus defining and marking our existence.

For humans to understand the phenomenon called emotion, we need to experience the opposites – sadness, dependent on happiness to understand balance. In order for us to feel the righteousness of forgiveness, we need to experience a wrong and so on. The world and our own psyche are in a state of constant flux trying to create balance, like the pendulum that swings too far to the left and in its momentum back to balance, it swings too far to the right. This continues until the momentum is used up and the pendulum reaches a still point. In the world around us it seems that the political correctness that we embraced for the last couple of decades has swung back and the rudeness that we have kept under wraps is now uncovering itself. The political arena is a prime example. In the past, we fell into political correctness excising the words we innocently used to describe people and events in our environment. We avoided using statements and words to describe an event, a person or an activity that we’ve come to consider as hurtful. This quietened us for a while. But now the negativity is coming at us with a vengeance. We did not understood the emotional effects our words had on others and as we continue in ignorance, we are now feeling the pain that words can inflict.

For the person who spews toxic liquor in words, it is necessary to understood the  effects his behaviour and words have on the people around him. The antidote of issuing hurtful words and action is to realize that we are projecting our pain on to others because we are unable to hold it within. We cause hurt to the perceived weaker amongst us before they can inflict the pain to us. Only a hurt individual will willfully say things that cause hurt to others. Only a wounded individual will be hurt by the words spoken by another.

To become highly evolved beings, to achieve ascension, we need to be aware of our inner angst. In so doing, we will know what will make us react negatively and we can make corrections, creating balance.

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Spirituality, Consciousness and Weight Management

The focus on weight and body image is a global obsession. Once upon a time women would have been the ones focussed on body appearance, now men have climbed aboard the fitness train. Food, supplements and exercise include the obsession towards good health. The world of celebrity keeps those interested in emulating others focussed on the attempt to maintain good health. Good health and diet are not exclusive. The world of perceived healthy foods is affecting the planet in adverse ways. Of course while many are starving in some countries, foods being wasted in parts of our developed world.

Many of us find it challenging to get to a weight and size that is recommenced by the medical professionals in our particular country. Our governments put a blanket rule on weight which we try to live up to, but heritage plays a large role in our physicality. I find that certain foods create inflammation in my system. Like turkey and salmon. These foods are supposed to be best for me. Salmon for me is a health food. Whenever I feel a cold coming on, I have a craving for salmon soup. This is a First Nations soup. A piece of salmon filet, skinned and cubed. One large potato, cubed and one large onion cubed. Add this to a saucepan with about six cups of water. Bring to the boil then turn the stove down to medium low. Cook until potatoes are tender. This soup does not require salt, fat or other seasoning. This soup is healing and anti-inflammatory. I must admit that I haven’t had this soup much. Maybe once a year, because colds are rarely a part of my life.

Eating correctly is important to optimum health. This means being aware of the types of food that your body likes. I eat what I like, but I also follow my body’s signals. My diet is very simple and I rarely eat out. When eating out, I avoid salads because restaurants use a plastic bottle to mix the dressings and I can smell the bacteria in the dressing. If I get a salad, I ask for the dressing on the side, that way I can make sure the dressing is free of bacteria. I do eat meat, my grandparents would not have survived had they not eaten meats. I don’t like fish very much. Once I loved fish until I started to be turned off from the fish at the fish shop. Humans are now clearing out the ocean of its fish. To me this means that the food from the ocean may not be so healthy.

Conscious living and conscious eating the right path to better health, which means that we heighten our senses to become aware. In food preparation, the ingredients speak to us. I have met many people who say they dislike cooking, but if you approach food and its preparation the same way you approach meditation, yoga or prayer, you would have a better experience in cooking. Food is such an important part of our health and wellbeing that to say you do not like to prepare the food that will keep you healthy is doing your body and your spirit a disservice.

Shopping for ingredients is really wonderful. Your body will tell you what it wants from one day to another. If you like chilli, your body will tell you the ingredients it wants to make the chilli.

My children learn to cook in by using their intuition. Even when we look at a cookbook, our inner self tells us if the ingredients will work for us that day or not. Of course there are techniques required for special recipes, but when you understand the technique, you don’t have to be perfect at it, just let your intuition and imagination take you to a healthy nourished body. Your weight will even settle to perfection because you are feeling contentment.