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Are you in sync with time?

It is the middle of July and I can hear most of you exclaim that the year is moving along so swiftly that we are now at the halfway mark and where did the year go? Are you one who feels that time is pushing you at breakneck speed towards an uncertain future? Have you wondered why time seems to be passing so quickly?

Our progress through time is like driving a long highway where we zone out to find that we have missed a large section of the landscape as we try to figure out where we’ve reached. I just did a three and a half days drive from the 1000 Islands region of Ontario to Vancouver in British Columbia. The last time I did this drive it was twelve years ago and I did it in less than three days. Not to brag though because I stayed near or on the speed limit during the drive. On such a long journey alone, I end up as one does thinking about a lot of things. Topics that occupied my mind, were time, our journey around the sun and the future of the human race.

Time, a man made device, or as Albert Einstein said, an invention of man, is our ruler. We have spent more time following time that we forgot how to be at one with ourselves, in time. The drive to Vancouver for me created the capacity to unplug. Of course when I arrived I realized that I had taken less time than I expected by just going with the flow…(of time). There is always more than enough time to do what we want. What we do not have, is time to spend (I love the idea of spending time like money) on regret over things we believe we have missed out on or have not done.

Unplugging is called living in the moment. This occurs when we decide to focus on the one thing requiring our concentration. We can get scattered and follow many leads but being and living in the moment will allow us to live a healthier emotional life without the stress and strain that comes from attempting to control time. I came along easily meeting very little traffic on the TransCanada Highway. That was until I decided to take Highway 99 through the Massey Tunnel in Surrey and sat in traffic for one hour waiting, becoming a part of five lanes of traffic braiding their way into one lane through the tunnel.

At the time, I calculated that I would get to my friends’ home after or before rush hour. My ankles were swollen from hanging out with the accelerator too long and I was ready for the break from driving. I began to focus on getting out of the car. The universe showed me that focussing on time caused a bottleneck through space that made me aware of how we block ourselves in our daily lives when we try to control or beat time.

An aside: I interrupted writing this blog and went downstairs, answering the call of Cali the calico cat. She wanted to be petted. Our pets are here to help us unplug from the expectations we create upon ourselves from time. Go pet your cat, take your dog for a walk, remember to pick up after him or her and watch time stand still.

What are your moments in time where you found yourself profoundly affected by the passage of time? Did you feel that you were hanging on for dear life as time sped up dragging you along? Or did you find yourself in a zen state along the way?


Is It Possible To Forgive?

Can you forgive even when the person who wronged you did so in the most horrendous way? We seem to be living in a world of retribution. Of righting wrongs by incarcerating or killing wrong-doers. The news is rife with stories of such things. The news reporters talk about putting politician’s feet to the fire to get them to fess up.

It seems that on a whole, mankind is seeking someone to blame for its pain and the present state of the planet. Funny the word mankind, man-kind. Kindness of man? Can we be kind to one we consider to be evil? What about children who are taught to hate from the adults in their lives. Do we find these people unforgivable?

My grandmother was shocked the day I arrived home from school weeping. She did not understand why I was so bereft at from her perspective, the justice brought upon a boy who nearly killed me, as she saw it. In school, I was small for my age, from the city, and smarter than the other kids. My first day of school, I was accosted by Laverna Campbell. The country bumpkin kids, thought that I must be tough coming from the city. Funnily enough I was six years old. They wanted to teach me a lesson. She bumped into me several times until I lost my temper and for the first time in my life got into a fight on the front lawn of my new school on the first day of school. My sisters and I were left to be reared by our grandparents as was the way in Jamaica. I was unhappy about being left behind and as the eldest was angry that at the age of five and a half I was having to also care for my younger siblings.

There was one boy in Mizpah Moravian School who, taller than almost everyone, and light-complected took it upon himself to torment the younger and smaller kids in the school. He walked with a cockiness that caused the little kids to cower when he appeared. I did not cower. Tiny and angry, I faced him one day when he targeted one of the first graders. I would not stand for it and stood between the child and him. The teachers intervened and things seemed to get better until recess time later in the afternoon when he swung the huge iron gate at the entrance of the school, glancing my head and sent me flying out into the street, knocking me cold. I guess an uproar ensued. I must have been unconscious for a while because I was told later that my grandmother, frightened that I might have been killed, showed up at school and gave the boy a piece of her mind. We were not ushered to hospitals in those days we were left until nature took its course. I survived but later the same day, the boy attacked another child whose brothers, three were there to defend their younger sibling. They beat the boy to an inch of his life. Each time he tried to stand he would fall over. I was distraught at the sight of him. I cried at the pitiful image he made as the victim.

I had always heard the statement that in order to understand a person it is necessary to walk a mile in his shoes. When I was small I took the statement literally. That day I understood what it meant. I heard in my head the words. “The bad man believes in the moment that his actions are right, but he is the most piteous sight when he is made to answer for what he has done.” I have empathy for everyone, even when I am angry at them. These day I don’t get angry at too many people, because I understand the root of their actions. Is it possible to forgive an individual knowing that he or she was taught to hurt others because they were relentlessly hurt themselves? We do have a choice, yet some of us never learned about those choices.

Forgiveness can bring us to a state of grace.


Heal and Release Pain From Your Life

Why is there so much violence and pain in the media? How can we shake off the stigma of war? For many of us violence is an abhorrent rot in the apple of human life. But getting rid of violence from our lives seems hard to do. The atomic bomb was made as an attempt to stop war once and for all. We also had the war to end all wars. World War One was the war expected to create lasting peace for humanity. This shows that even the most ardent war monger wants peace. But why is peace so illusive? What is it in our own human psyche that cause us to instantly be driven to cause pain to our fellow humans? We all live on this planet. We are stuck with each other until we can remember how to lift off back into space.

Robert Heinlein’s book, Stranger In A Strange Land, is about Valentine Michael Smith, the offspring of visiting astronauts to Mars, who was brought up my Martians when his mother passed away in Mars. He was found and returned to Earth where he tried to understand humanity. He tried to ‘grokk’ humans – the word had many meanings on Mars. On thing that puzzled him was trying to understand why humans laugh. He tried to laugh but the sound issued from him was like rubbing rusty metal together. He tried to laugh many times with no success until later on in the book, when he realized that humans laughed as an attempt to deal with emotional inconsistency. One day he was walking through a zoo and a tiny monkey caught his attention. The monkey sat with a banana in its paws and was just about to eat it when a bigger monkey came along, took his banana and whacked the tiny monkey on the head bowling him over. The little monkey made a fuss but did not pursue the bigger monkey.

Triumphant with his booty, the big monkey walked over to a rock, sat down and as he was about to eat his banana, an even bigger monkey came along, knocked the thief over and took the banana. The injured monkey made a great fuss, screamed and jumped up and down, at his offender. He soon calmed down still fussing and looked on as the biggest monkey ate the prize. Michael, after watching this began to laugh hysterically. When asked why he laughed, he said, I know why humans laugh! They laugh because it hurts. Humans hurt, and the only way to ease their pain is to laugh by creating a victim they can make appear worse off than they are.

I brought this book up because Robert Heinlein was correct in this novel. Humans do not like light to be shone on our pain. We are not comfortable at being visibly vulnerable when we are in emotional distress. As children, many of us were given something to cry about and told stop crying, grow up! But the vulnerable child still lives within us. It wants to express and shake off the pain, but is still so much in fear of reprisal should he express him self that he tries to make others cry. The deeper and more intense the pain, the more mercilessly, we make others suffer. Anger and negativity are parts of the human landscape, for now.

Trending on social media platform, we see people being shamed mercilessly until they end their lives. People hiding behind the computer keyboard, focus on the foibles of humanity as it come into high visibility. It is time we start to see our own shortcomings through the reflection of others. When we feel the need to laugh at another person’s pain, we should ask ourselves what am I hiding from within myself? We have become so incredibly callous that we are at risk of losing our humanity. We are forgetting that we are a reflection of the divine spirit, that is the energy of love itself.

Over the years I avoided having bodywork, which even Dr. Oz has shared, that massages and reflexology are important to our physical health. A couple of weeks ago, I decided to go to an amazing Brockville reflexology practitioner. The experience was wonderful. I took the time for body care. We all need to do this with our emotions. We are divine beings. We are the most important mirror in each of our lives. When we take the time to look after our emotions, heal our pain as it surfaces, we will shift the anger and negativity into light. It will not work to pretend that we are not confused or angry, because we are the ones living within our own psyche. We are living with ourselves. So resolving the anger and pain will help us to find peace in our lives and create a sense of calm.

Having emotional peace will shift the focus from others’ flaws. Becoming in love with ourselves will certainly help to reduce the amount of war and pain in our world. Here’s to lasting peace issued from within!

Join me in an emotional healing workshop or healing session and uncover the pain hidden in the dark corners of your psyche.

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Seeing The Safety Zone in a Challenge

Spring is finally here! Whee Whoo! The relentless snow and cold are over and we are now blessed with beautiful blue skies in Ontario accompanied by clement temperatures. I started my walks to the river which is about fourteen blocks away from where I live. I wandered under the train bridge where still sits a foot thick sheet of ice. Last summer each time I walked under the bridge I would think of the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff. It was eerie and a little chilly and with a chill up my back, I usually walked a little faster to pass through. For those of you who don’t know, the story of The Three Billy Goats Gruff is a Norwegian fairy tale where an ogre living under a bridge wanted to eat each billy goat as he tried to cross to get to food on the other side. The first two billy goats convinced the ogre that his hunger would be satisfied by the biggest billy goat. The biggest billy goat confronted the ogre and butted him back under the bridge making the way for all three billy goats to cross any time they wanted. I think the moral of the story is that there is always someone larger than a bully, who will champion the disadvantaged.

The ogre is a representation of the challenges we encounter in our lives that threatens our standard of living and even our way of life. During the last several weeks Canada experienced several closures of large companies, throwing many people back on to the job market. The rollercoaster times we are in challenge the best of us at this time. Hearing that the economy showed no growth over the last quarter may make many of us feel a little queasy, but this is the chrysalis time for us in all aspects in our lives. We heard about the shift in consciousness that humans presupposed is happening at this time. As I said in the past, the shift will be so subtle that we won’t notice the metamorphosis until we are fully realized into the thing our unconscious mindset will create for us. By that I mean, past, present and future are operating at this time. How we view ourselves in the past has shaped who we are today. If we don’t like what we see, then we must change our view of our selves. Because what we think about our world and our view of ourselves in our world are shaping our future. Frightening but true. If we go into our chrysalis state thinking we are clumsy moths instead of delicate butterflies, we will emerge a warped butterfly/moth creature, we may not like what we see.

The idea is that we need to envision ourselves as divine beings and we must each figure out what that looks like for ourselves in order to embody that vision. The future, which is unfolding each moment like ice blooming on cold lake water, tells us that it awaits our input of what it is to become. The bridging time is awaiting our design. It waits for us to define how it is to appear. There are some chilly patches along the journey into transformation, but if we walk right down the middle, where the ice is thawed, we will be OK.
The side story about my walk under the bridge, each time I went for my walk, and I encountered the ice, I climbed up and over the bridge and across the train tracks, a little dangerous. Yesterday as I approached the bridge, I felt the cold air coming off the ice. I looked up at the climb to go over the bridge and found that it had iced over. I did not want to turn back so I climbed up onto the slab of ice under the bridge, clutching the wall trying not to slip and fall. Then it dawned on me that the ice had thawed leaving a clear gully down the middle that I could walk safely along! I laughed and shook my head at the irony. I was so focused on the danger of falling on the ice under the bridge, that it did not dawn on me that I had already seen the safe gully down the middle. I did not see that there was a safe path if I focused on the positive. I wandered as I walked along, how many of us forget to see that there is a positive way out of any challenge; all we have to do is expand our view of the situation we encounter to see the narrow channel to safety.

Take a look at your challenge and see if you can spot the safe zone through it. Every challenge has a positive escape route.


Earth Reflects Our Inner Angst

We sing praises to the beautiful sunset painted against the western sky. We worship a warm sun-filled day where the birds sing out songs to the glory of the earth. The snow on the mountains is perfect for us as long as it remains on the mountain and does not interfere with our daily life. But bring on a very cold day, a tornado, a snow storm that traps us within its embrace and we label the earth, a demon beast out to get us. We cry and mourn asking why is this happening to me? If the earth had consciousness and I believe she does, how would she feel, that no matter what she does we are not satisfied. What if the planet is reflecting our collective emotional state? With cold and snow, reflections of frozen emotions locked in us by fear; tornadoes reflecting our inner anger and rage? Many people have acknowledged that they are sensitive to certain environments and the energy emitted by people. What if the earth is the same as us, sensitive to our emotions and she reflects this back to us in the only way we can understand? There are many scientists who see the earth as angry and vengeful. But what if she cannot help but be the mirror of our own angst?

On a more personal basis, our homes represent our mind. If we are having emotional challenges but do not respect it, by expressing our fears and tears, our home will do it for us. A flood is a good example of tears being mirrored by our environment. I had a client who bought a house and after a few months of living in it experienced a leak that she could not find. She spent hundreds of dollars with plumbers looking for the hidden leak. There was the sign of a leak but no sign of the origin of the leak. The couple were going through marital issues and none were willing to express the emotional weight, the problem was having them. Each mourned the loss of intimacy but were not willing to express it our loud for fear of rejection. The day they came clean to each other about their deepest fear and sadness the plumber found the leak and was able to fix it. Which co-incidentally was in the crawl space of the house.

This is the same with the planet. She feels our pain, anger and fear more than ever, because our population has expanded also increasing our fear and anger. She is not immune to our emotions because our physical selves come from her and we return to her when we die. The weather stories in the news are an opportunity for us to look at our own inner story and try and fix it. California is experiencing drought. What does that mean to the people there? Well, drought represents emotions held within. Hollywood is a place based upon illusion and illusion cannot sustain itself without substance. California is filled with celebrities and wannabe celebrities, each focused on getting ahead with no place for the emotional impact of their drive to succeed. Take a look at your community and see if it is reflecting your emotional state.

How do we help the planet to look after us? The challenging answer is quite easy. We need to take a look at our own inner feelings and be truthful with ourselves about it. Playing ‘The Fonz’ is not going to cut it if we want the planet to reflect a peaceful state. Meaning that the planet will have balanced weather when we have found peace within.

Take the time to own how you are feeling. When you find the fear or the pain, sit with it. “I want to know if you, can you sit with pain mine and your own”Oriah Mountain Dreamer, THE INVITATION. Just sit with your pain. Try not to hide from it. It will lead you out into the light of understanding and peace. I don’t think we seek happiness. I feel we seek peace. From peace comes the components that breed happiness. Help the planet by looking after your pain and she will look after us by keeping the weather balanced.

Crazy thought…we are the ones in control of our world and the universe…

Sonia Nadina Haynes, emotional healing therapist helps you to heal so you can live your life well.


Good Friday For Tolerance

Good Friday commemorates a man who was tortured for his beliefs and for being different. Regardless of our beliefs, history has shown those considered different in society are expunged for their uniqueness. Scientists who saw the world as round instead of flat, lost their existence. An individual who decided that he or she would not remain quiet while others are being mistreated is shot dead. Individuals whose uniqueness at birth create such a fever that we take up arms against them even to wish them dead. Is it our nature as humans to be cruel? The evidence does not support this. In the quiet places in our minds where no-one can challenge us we wish to be different from the crowd. We wish to be seen as unique. But in public, because we see the extent to which our heroes are being treated, we join the crowd and scream “Crucify him!”

Cruelty is not in our nature regardless of what we have been told. When we treat someone in a negative way, a piece of ourselves die. Whether we are aware of it or not, we see ourselves in the other person’s eyes and through their body language and actions. This cause us to feel anger at their perceived weakness, and lack of power, like looking in the mirror and hating the pimple that shows up on our cheek. This motivates us to go in for the kill and abuse our power against them. It is by no means all our fault because the person who reflect our weakness does carry that sense of disempowerment themselves. This begs the question, how can I fix it? One cannot fix a negative expression reflected through another. Because we would have to break the mirror to avoid looking at the offending pimple. Of course with the mirror gone we have no more mirror in which to observe ourselves.

The only thing expected of us is a little bit of self-reflection with the realization that if we harm another for being different, strange or out there, we are externalizing our own inner persecutor. War will end when we no longer war with ourselves. When we accept our own belief systems we will not push it against anyone else, because we will be able to accept that we each see the sky through our own individual and weird filters. We will smile at ourselves and ask the other person to tell us about their impression.

This Good Friday and Easter could be the beginning of showing tolerance to ourselves which will automatically be expressed out in the world. The shift we are seeking issues from the core, from within.


Does One Need Sparkles To Feel Spiritual?

Since recorded times, we have been attracted like bees to nectar to the bells and whistles of spiritual development. Many of us go to the church with the most dramatic display, such as the pomp and circumstances of the catholic church or the over-the-top singing and preaching of the baptist minister. In the spiritual world many are still attracted to pretty-pretty or morosely ugly. Lately, I was at an event where bells and whistles were the draw for the attendees. They were enticed by the display of bright colour, drumming and the sound of crystal bowls. Impressively costumed teachers were the draw for most. It got me thinking, do we need all the bells and whistle to feel spiritual? Or is it just a distraction keeping us away from the thing we crave to embrace?

Several things came to mind as I thought about this. A friend told me several years ago that I needed to put on makeup and display my ‘assets’ because sex sells. Although I wear makeup from time to time, I have not tried to paint my face, or put on bright sparkles to attract clients. When I started my journey, I was drawn to Sedona Arizona where I met Solomon, (don’t know his last name). Solomon, a powerful channel gave me a lot of clarity to the new path I was embarking on. He was as plain as ever. Upon meeting him you would not know that he was a high calibre channel with the ability to connect with the ascended masters. He was a latin dance teacher and a good dancer, to boot.

“If you focus on how you look and getting your environment to look right, the message will be lost. It is important to see that the message is more important.” This was channeled to me by Solomon from the Ascended Masters. I felt an intense relief. I am not one for all the pomp and circumstances. Although I have a slight need to have my environment feel comfortable, OK make it a lot, I like easy does it and come as you are. In my world everything is perfect.

For a short time, when I first embarked on this path, I felt challenged to embellish myself to fit the spiritual world, but it did not feel right. The message from Solomon came back to me and I released the need to be flashy to appear spiritual and focused on being.

We are all beautiful. We each have our own personal style. It may be tattoos, to hair extensions to being blond. I did the blond thing, not brave enough to get tattooed or vain enough to endure the physical burden of hair extensions. I found that when I embellished my image to fit a certain vogue, I did not feel comfortable, because it required vigilance to keep it up.

Do we need sparkles to be spiritual? I think not we need to feel sparkly to be spiritual. We need to be fresh and clear in our spirit and this leads to the bedazzling cloak that we wear, on and off the spiritual platform.


Expectations In Love

When the new year began, we started our journey from creation towards destruction, in order to start the cycle all over again. As strange as it may seem, we started this new cycle in December at the winter solstice. The time of standstill to renewal, the winter solstice brings us to preparation for new life. In order to create new life, it is necessary for us to fall in love. Life is created from love. Sometimes the love is a bit twisted and we judge the life produced, for the way it was created, but, life requires a dynamic force which brings the sperm and egg together for its existence. The same as in nature, life requires struggle and rutting to force truth out of chaos in the first stage of love itself.

Most of us seek an emotional bond that we feel will give us a sense of wholeness. In the arena of public opinion displayed in the social media, we have many and varying ideas of how we should love, how a man should treat a woman and so on. We are in a time where we put our laundry, clean or dirty out in the world of public opinion and we hope that someone will sympathize with us and our dis-satisfaction will be satiated because our views have been heard.

Love is a powerful force in the universe and within ourselves, of course we know that. But we certainly have strange expectations when we fall in love. Most of us fall in lust. It is not a bad thing to fall in lust. Lust provide us with the thing we are missing, a closeness to ourselves which we are unable to generate. We mistake lust for love, writing beautiful poems to our lover, today, expressing our private moments and parts on the public arena in order to attract the object of our lustful desire. Lust does not work to get us what we want, though. It cannot. Lust is like a lit matchstick. It burns down quickly. Soon the fire is extinguished burning our fingers in the process, causing us to drop the matchstick. It is impossible to maintain a relationship on lust alone.

A loving relationship endures, like the light of a campfire or the christmas fire which, if carefully fed, over time will continue to burn and keep both people in the relationship warm for years to come. This fire has to be carefully tended. Too much fuel and it becomes destructive. What I mean is that if we are afraid of losing the love we have, and we put too much emphasis on being together, or we sacrifice our own light for the other, this love will burn up quickly. When we expect passions to burn every day, we will soon force the fire to extinguish itself by running out of passion. (We run out of ideas.) We end up feeling neglected and we fall out of the embrace of a relationship we worked so hard to cultivate. If we forget to add fuel to the fire, it will burn down and soon there is nothing but the ashes of an exhausted love affair. This is why many go outside the relationship seeking attention. Because the expectation of what love is supposed to be has not been met, the disappointment pushed them out of the circle of their love fire where they end up feeling cold and alone. This place is where affairs of the body, mind and spirit occurs.

Love is a simple multiplication equation. 1 x 1 = 1.

We do not need someone to complete us. Because a broken heart in a relationship added to another broken heart will become two broken hearts in a broken relationship. Broken hearts do not mend each other. It is impossible. Broken hearts attract lust, the fire that burns up and is quickly extinguished. To find the love that is whole, one must first find wholeness within oneself. That wholeness will attract a whole heart to us which requires nothing but the freedom to express the beauty of love. Passions will burn. The fire will be self-nurturing, with a little something-something to keep it going. The couples who stay together for sixty and eighty years know this. They are each committed to themselves. They know that in order for their love to endure they need to tend their own hearts, carefully.

Falling In Love
You begin your love affair with the first meeting. This experience has a magnetic force that is inexplicable. You cannot help yourself. You need to touch each other and conversation is near to impossible to end. You look through each other’s eyes into the other’s soul. The passion is impossible to resist. You spend as much time as you can muster in each other’s arms. You fall into the irresistible magnetic attraction.

The Union
The need to be in each other’ embrace cause you to move in together. You leave everything you have ever known. You rush into each other’s arms and homes. Whether you like football or not you decide to like what he likes. You endure her friends. You carry her purse. You sacrifice some of your needs and desires because this is what you have been taught. All over the media and in popular songs you are told that you must sacrifice for the one you love. You learn to cook. Until the seven-year-itch occurs. It is not really a specific period of time. Each of us is different. We all have our breaking point.

The Betrayal
This is the point where you become bored. You convince yourself that you are not getting what you need from your partner and you look outside of the relationship for the fire you encountered in the relationship at the beginning. You have the affair. The challenge is that if you were not whole in the relationship to begin with, try as you may, you will not find wholeness on the outside. It is necessary to work on your wholeness while you have the protection of an embracing force. It is really a good time to work on who you are and try to break old outmoded thought patterns and behaviours while in the relationship. If you do not, the love you have found will lead to disappointment and feelings of betrayal.

The Mending
A moment of infidelity does not a relationship break. However, if you are still carrying the pain from a father who betrayed and abandoned you, that you have not completely resolved, you will end up breaking. The relationship will break. Most of us run away because the pain is too great, the love we thought we found, is left in shattered pieces at our feet. Is it possible to mend such a painful shambles? I say yes. The first thing we do is look at our self. Ask, Why is this repeating in our life again? When we are courageous enough to ask the question and stand up to hear the truth in the answer, we are on the road to healing. Love is not a magic fire that will burn without tending. It is a force that needs feeding from within ourselves. In the mending, we let go of preconceived notions of what love is. We release the need for the other to sacrifice themselves for us as we release our need to be self-sacrificing. We find respect, strength and a stedfast belief in yourself. This will pour out into the union that we have fought to keep alive.

The Forever In Love
This is the time where we release our fear of being alone. This cause us to lock in with each other. We open our self to reside in the soul of your lover. At this time we will not fear abandonment or betrayal. But if such feelings surface, we work through it together. This is the time where we are able to stand toes to toes; nose to nose and look in each other’s eyes. We look to see our reflection in the other’s eyes. If we are afraid to see, we are not mended. It means that we do not trust our self as yet. It means that we are afraid of intimacy.


It means that we are able to be the mirror, through which our lover can see him or her self reflected in our own eyes. This is the place where good, bad or indifferent, we are comfortable with the reflection we see within.

Happy Valentines


Simple Is Best In The Healing World

A lady goes into the doctor’s office and said, Doctor, I don’t feel so good. The doctor asked her, what’s happening? She said, I have an upset stomach every time I eat. The doctor said, well mam, maybe it could be what you are eating. She said, I don’t think so doctor. I am a healthy eater. Last night I had a cup of herbal peppermint tea before dinner, then I had a mixed herb salad. I had red raspberry leaf tea while I was having dinner. Then I had a cup of camomile tea after dinner to calm my nerves. She jingled the bunch of crystals suspended from a chain around her neck. Calcite for power chakra, rose quartz for love, smoky quartz in the shape of a scull to ward off evil energy, malachite to get her moved through the drama in her life faster, and a piece of pyrite for abundance. The doctor asked her how much water have you had? I drink water every day, she said. My naturopath said I need to have as much water as I can to flush the toxins from my body. I eat healthily, she said. I think you need to unburden yourself, the doctor said after a minute of deliberation. I suggest you go home and put away some of the jewelry from your neck. Then have a regular cup of tea and stick to only one kind of tea for a couple of days. Have your salad, but have something hardy with it as well, my recommendation is that you give your body a break. She looked at her doctor curiously, left his office and went home. She followed his recommendation and found that she felt better after the first day of eating and living simpler.

In our world of self-diagnoses and journeys into the world of holistic medicine, many of us find ourselves running around seeking answers to the maladies that plague us. We are willing to try anything and everything and we find that most of what we try do not work. We still feel unwell. Most times we think that something is wrong with us. We come up with every kind of diagnoses in an attempt to cure what ails us. We live in a world with so many diagnoses of so many different health issues, that doctors have run out of treatments to alleviate our suffering. In many ways we think we are living a simple life when we take a holistic approach to our healing but for most of us we go into overkill in an attempt to heal.

Most of the things out there designed to heal us will not do so. Outside forces, medicines and paraphernalia do not heal us. Even the medicines of traditional doctors cannot heal us. They are placebos that we have put in our way to assist us in believing in our healing. There are stories of people who go to the doctor with one malady or another who took the drugs administered and they found no relief. They took everything prescribed, followed all the instructions but because they were dependent on their illness to keep them feeling that they are alive, they do not get relief.

Our bodies have an intelligent blueprint for perfection in good health. It is capable of dispelling any disorder if we are willing to let it go. Having a conversation with this incredible feat of engineering, called our body is necessary to maintain good health. We keep forgetting or maybe you don’t know that we were born with an intelligence that rivals anything we can come up with. Left to its own devices our body will maintain optimal heal supported by a healthy mind. By that I mean, thinking positive thoughts about ourselves and having a kind and uplifting dialogue with our body will support its health. Then we will be able to hear what our body has to say.

Your body speaks. But you do not listen. It tells you when it is overloaded with too much ‘help’. It tells you that the many crystals you wear around your neck is causing strain on the muscles of your shoulders and neck. It tells you the you need to eat chocolate today because you are not feeling very positive, because chocolate is your feel-good drug. It tells you to eat seafood-shellfish for the iodine. Cravings are the body’s way of telling us what it needs. Even when it is not directing us, our body is communicating with us. When my children were little, I used to panic when they did not eat, especially the younger one. I took her to the doctor and he checked her weight and her vitals. He advised me that she was doing fine and that she was listening to her body’s signals. He said to leave her alone and when she was hungry she would eat. Ironically that is how I live. I eat what I feel like eating at the moment. I followed the doctor’s guidance and my daughters grew up to be healthy strong individuals. Sometimes overindulging in healthy eating can burden our bodies just the same as abstaining from the thing that make us happy can also burden our body and our spirit.

This article is not written to advise you to stop what you are doing to find optimal health. But if what you are doing is not working, my suggestion is to step back and allow your body to reset itself. Then let it tell you what it wants, even chocolate and go from there. The simple approach is often the most direct and less stressful on your body. A simple approach is best in the healing world.

The author, Sonia Nadina Haynes is an intuitive, emotional healer with the ability to support your journey out of illness into wellness.

Audacity To Dream

Find The Audacity To Manifest Your Dream

2014 was a year of possibilities yet to be discovered. The human race, meaning the planet has been in a deep slumber for the past five to ten years. All the magic we held flew away from us and we turned to following leaders in all aspects of commerce. If a writer made it big, we turned to writing. The big box stores became popular, now they are slowly closing down and the mom and pop establishments are waiting to return to dominance.

I was in New York City over the holidays and was struck with the emptiness there. I thought I would shop for something, anything and found that the things I may have wanted in New York were already available in my local mall in Canada. (It seemed to me that we are in a state of sameness. It is as if uniqueness has taken a vacation.) Plus things were also more expensive because of the currency exchange. The streets of New York were practically empty. It reminded me of a post apocalyptic movie where most of the people had died and the only things left were the echoes  of human population in pieces of paper and garbage.

As I walked around, I wandered, where are our eight billion people? They said the human population had grown to over eight billion people. Have our population shrunk without our being aware of it? A decade ago I would walk along Madison Avenue vigorously dodging the multitudes of people rushing along to do one thing or another. Now I had the streets mostly to myself. I even found a seat in the Starbucks! Something is happening and if one has not gone out into the world and seen the changes out there, one would think that the status quo is still in place. What do we do now in a world that has ceased to be manipulated by our fear based actions? To date, many have died for the change upon us. A change that will propel our species into a more interesting, less adversarial experience with each other. Can you imagine it? Humankind forgetting to hurt one another and focus on our spiritual evolution instead? It is happening but in a sneaky way so we do not realize it is happening and make a stampede back through the door of forgetfulness. In 2015 we will begin to see small businesses take hold again in the global economy. The people in power will find it hard to keep things as they have been since the times of the Romans.

Be prepared to find your life going just the way you want it to. You will see your curiosity about life increase. Prosperity will begin to spread like mould spores in a dark place. It doesn’t sound too appetizing, but we will gradually find our audaciousness and move towards our dreams. This is the change we have heard about. It is here. The time is now.