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The Power of The Breath

There is power in the breath.

Emerging from the womb, we take the first breath, in a wail, a gasp or a scream. At the end of our life, we take a last breath, in a sigh, a gasp or a tiny exhalation. The breath takes us from the womb to the emergence into the realm of spirit. In between, we breathe. Most of us are shallow breathers. We do not claim the whole of our body with the breath. This comes from our formative years. As children while playing hide and seek, or when we felt under stress, we stopped breathing. We held our breath. Not aware that we do this, when we become stressed as adults, we bring the childhood activity forward and breath shallowly. This was a survival impulse. If you check in, you may find that you only breathe into your upper chest. Shallow breathing robs the body of the oxygen it needs to work at its optimal. Shallow breathing causes tension and because of tension activates cortizol production in our body. It is necessary to be mindful of the way we breathe. Mindfulness can begin with meditation, which causes you to focus on breathing.

To remedy the situation, find time for stillness.

Take a moment in a quiet place, free from distraction. Be sure to support your spine, this keeps your posture in balance. Focus on your breathing. Take a shallow breath and see how you feel. Be aware that your body craves more air. Then breathe out. Take another breath this time fill your lungs as deeply as you can. Pause for one beat then breathe out slowly. Focus on your breathing. Do this seven times.

Next, focus on your breathing and this time when you breathe deeply, hold the breath in your lungs for a count of four. Breath in four counts, hold your breath four counts then slowly breathe out four counts. Relax your body for two counts and repeat the breathing exercise. It is important to breathe through your nose, in and out.

We usually breathe with our mouths when our are stressed, through heavy breathing. To snore we breathe through our mouth. When we are in peaceful repose, we tend to breathe through our nose. Keep cycling the air around your body until you feel very relaxed. The more you practice breathing deeply, the more your body will move into the act of breathing deeply. You will find that the activities you do will be accomplished more effortlessly.

Uncovering The Hidden

I have always talked about the hidden story inside of us that changes our lives when it is revealed. The #metoo movement shows this very clearly. Can you imagine the courage it takes to topple an establishment that persists through fear? For decades the entertainment and other industries have used violence against the dreamers. The dreamers in this case are the people with dreams and goals in their hearts awaiting realization. Young people who dream about gaining a moment in the limelight ended under the oppressive Spector of abuse. Women marry with the idea that they are being protected by love. They follow the footsteps of their fathers, going into the protective forces, military and police only to experience abuse and dismissiveness.
Abuse is mostly used against women, children and vulnerable young men who remained silent because of shame and guilt. Shame becomes like a worm that digs into their psyche eating away at their self-esteem. To deal with this the abused are then preyed on by drug companies and the professionals who prescribe stimulants with the idea is to help them cope with their emotional pain.

Fear of being singled out – fear of being ostracized became the heavy burden the abused bore and this fear caused them to turn to external crutches as coping mechanism.

Abuse is not only sexual, there is financial abuse. People are told to pay their dues before they can have the job or a promotion in a company where fat cats reap the lions share of the profits. In the family there is abuse of status, where the male in the family is still considered the lord and ruler of his domain and the female his subordinate. I have met many wives who were afraid to go out for a cup of tea because she will have to report to her husband why she chose to do something for herself. She will create diseases of many different kinds to get the support she craves. She turns to “daddy” her husband for the support she needs because she cannot do it herself. This is now the time for the veil of negative behaviour to be removed so that we can all live without holding our breath.

False power will always reveal itself. It never goes obscured forever. I look forward to what else will be revealed, such as why some people have such a hard time taking responsibility for their actions while blaming others for the same thing. It is a power strategy based on a deeply primitively survival mentality, but the thing that is hidden will eventually surface, noting stays hidden forever. The ice caps melt, the things hidden for millennia under the ice are being revealed.

Clear Your Mind For A Positive New Year

Leaving an old year behind is like moving homes. One must hopefully clear out the unwanted objects, clothing, bits and bobs that one has collected and held on to from the previous year or Couple Moving Boxes Between Homesyears, organize oneself and pack the necessary things for the new home. So too with emotionally leaving an old year behind for a brand new year, it is necessary to clean your karmic and emotional home of vitreous so that your new year can be assured. What are you holding on to? What do you need to release that you have carried for so many years to this moment that you are not aware is holding you back?

Over the past several years, I promoted myself as an emotional healer/psychic and those of you who know me, know that psychic is a tool I use to assist you on your quest to understand your life, relationships and motivation. As I leave two thousand and seventeen, I will shed and leave behind  the designation of “psychic” in order to clear up confusion. I am an empath who is also an emotional healer with the ability to see into your story, and I help you to realize your dreams. In spirit there is no time. The expectation on us is to understand the reason for our experiences, good and bad, so that the things we really want can be realized. Are you wanting love to come into your life? My job is to help you look at the negatives that you have held on to that act as a barrier to love knocking at your door. Do you need a change in your job situation? There is always something you are holding on to that keeps you from the new position you are destined for.

Take a look at what you are clinging to, believe me, the reflections are all around you showing blatantly the source of your limitations. In my life I look for the limiting factors entering my life, glaringly reflecting my personal story for my examination. I am in awe of how our inner selves strive to take us on our life’s destiny, if only we are humble enough to acknowledge the things we are afraid of seeing, that we hoard  to the detriment of our forward progress.

At the close of this year, take the time to look at what you want, but are not getting, then look at the impediments in the way. It is right there at your feet, causing you to stumble and keeping you from the door to your dreams. It is time we all clear the way of impediments to our dreams.

And when your dreams appear, it is important that you make yourself remain open to the showers of blessings.

When To Trust Your Psychic

You may have heard this many times before, everyone is a psychic. If that is so then why do we go to see a psychic for energetic and spiritual guidance? A psychic’s skill is developed through many years, he may have been born with a stronger skill because being a psychic is his life’s path. She may have experienced trauma that cracked her open like a dried coconut and she follows her spirit guides to support your healing.

cyrstal ballIt is easy to form distrust in a psychic if you do not use you own radar to suss out whom to trust and whom to stay away from. We all resonate with certain persons. One psychic may be able to connect with you easier that they would with your friend. You have to follow your intuition and your heart to know.

I have had clients contact me concerned that a psychic told them that they have been cursed and will need to be cleared. These people offer to do so for a lot of money. This is the same as going to a financial advisor who leads you to invest in risky stock that do not fit with you, your lifestyle or temperament. Everything is relative. You are asked by your higher self to stop and check in to see if what they are telling you is your truth. As with the financial advisor, someone else may be OK with a risky investment, but if you are not comfortable with it you must listen to your inner voice.

The other challenge with going to an intuitive, psychic, medium – they are all the same to me – are the questions you ask. Most people are embarrassed to ask personal questions and sit in silence waiting for the intuitive to tune into their energy to get to the heart of the matter. Others decide to test the psychic to see if the person is for real. I think doing so is a waste of your money and the practitioner’s time. When you show up to an intuitive it is best to have your questions ready. Some psychics prefer that you not “lead” them with information but wait until they have finished the reading. I like to do readings that way, I usually answer all your questions before you ask them, but keep your list of questions in case we meaning your higher self, guides and I being the conduit, miss anything.

If the session is a mini-reading, then presenting your question in advance will save time.

Now we move to the questions. Many clients who come to me ask, when will I find love, or when will I meet The One? The question should be, Am I energetically ready for the love I want? Being ready for love is as important as finding love or a career or spiritual development.

Contact Sonia for a reading.

Shaman Story

Mystical Experiences Without Fanfare

Most of us rely on the visual or audial for validation of the existence of other worlds. Eastern European, Asian and First Nations mysticism gained traction in our society because of the pump and circumstances displayed for all to see. Smudging, ceremony, dance and drumming give us the authenticity we require to know that god exists. We have a visual expectation of how a shaman should appear and sound and accept the authenticity of the individual’s gifts based on their appearance. My great grandmother, Muma Gayle looked like an ordinary person. She had her head wrapped in a red and white, stiffly starched, plaid cotton headdress, like the senior women in the village. She dressed in layers of clothing in the heat of the day but all the other women did the same. She had a clay pipe which she smoked up until her one hundred and seventh year when she decided to take her leave from this state of existence. Many of the elder women in the village and the villages around smoked a clay or corncob pipe.

Her daughter, my grandmother (granny) Emma Haynes, nee Gayle did the same. Both were powerful medicine women in our community. Neither tried to convince others of their pedigree or their power. I remember Muma calling me from inside her house, even though I tried to hide from her, which left me wondering how she knew I was there. Emma Haynes was the same. One Sunday, my sister and I were home alone, we might have been sick, when we decide to pick tangerines from the tree that grew along the path that lead to and from our wattle adobe house. The tangerine tree was very tall and gave fruit as big as a grown person’s hand. We had taken all the fruit from the lower branches and the sweetest and biggest fruit were high up on the top branches, out of reach.

Granny was called to go see someone who was dealing with an impending difficult birth leaving us to cool our heels at home. We were bored. Conversation turned to the tangerine tree and how we would get the fruit from so high up. A pole did not work so my sister decided to climb partway up the tree to improve her reach. Before she left, granny had told us to stay away from the tree, as if she knew what was on our minds.

My sister climb the trunk of the tree and was half the way up, about ten feet off the ground when I saw a large green lizard on the branch below her. It was angrily shifting from red to green to black, flicking its tongue, snapping its jaw and slowly stalking her. She looked down saw the lizard and freaked out.

“I am going to get the ladder.” I yelled.

As I turned to run for the ladder, she let go of her hold of the tree trunk, falling onto the rocks at the base of the tree. She hit her head and passed out. Boy, I was worried. I brought her to and helped her into the kitchen where I mixed up my grandmother’s trauma brew and gave it to her. She recovered with time to spare before our grandmother returned home. We agreed not to keep our adventure to ourselves.

“I told you not to climb that tree!” She screamed at us as she walked into the yard.

We were in shock. How did she know? We tried to see if she might have observed us from where she was, but we could not prove if she was a witch or just clever. That was my childhood. Strange and sometimes crazy mystical experiences without fanfare or labels.

Reflection in the mirror Blog

Look At Your Reflection In The Hall Of Mirrors And Find Balance

“You are the centre of your universe. Everything and everyone you encounter is a reflection of your unconscious belief system.” – Sonia Nadina Haynes

It has been said that the world is our mirror. The world as it presents itself to us, cannot be your mirror because you are kind and loving and a being of light.  How does this work with the mirror? When you were born, you knew yourself to be whole, perfect and divine.

Through challenging experiences, where you felt unheard and invalidated, you forgot this information and left the beautiful part of yourself behind. There is a brave little girl and boy, who is creative and fearless, who knows that he and she matters. He will assist your transformation if you stop long enough to hear what she has to say. Many people and especially powerful healers are hard put to connect with that innocent aspect of themselves. Because it requires diving into a pain that is so cutting, it seems impossible that it will end. Not going into the pain however, cause you to feel stuck.

You are left yearning to make a shift in your life and yet no matter how hard you try, the shift is unattainable. It is like in the commercial of the Coppertone child on the beach with the little black dog hanging on to her bikini bottom, our inner innocence holds us in place until we fearlessly allow it to emerge.

We are now in the time of the White Hall of Mirrors in Mayan prophesy. This is a time of reflection, when we face ourselves, becoming the watched and the watcher in our own lives. It is a time where we come in contact with our own inner truth hopefully without judgement. There is no good or bad in this state. It is we who think in such terms, and as we do so the world is reflecting this back to us. We are tossing thoughts out into the ether willy-nilly. I don’t like my hair. How am I going to make it through today? Why don’t I have any friends? Why am I still attracting this type of relationship? How am I going to pay the rent? These questions fill the spaces around us. Because they are questions, they require answers. Our world is constantly attempting to balance itself through presenting answers.

We cannot have the answers because we resist and forgot to look into the mirror. When we look at the reflection within our core we have the power to change the story around us. Pay close attention to the mirror. Be aware that if you do not like yourself, you will bump into people who will reflect this back at you. If you do not believe that what you have to say is important or valuable, you will meet individuals who will leave you feeling that you have no voice. These frustrating unconscious stories will show up in your body as diseases because your inner unconscious self wants you to find the truth, your truth. It needs you to know that you are important. It needs you to release the early childhood imprinting so that you can ascend into your divinity.

Sonia Nadina Haynes is a catalyst for change in the lives of all whom she meets. She is an Emotional Healing Therapist, Spiritual Teacher and Healer. She sees your past, present and future. She tells you what has brought you to this place in your life. What you need to do to resolve the present moment and what you need to do to positively impact your future.
Contact Sonia and heal your life today. contact@soniahaynes.com – 778-786-1301

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The Addictive Thrill Of Fear, How to break away

I used to love roller coasters. My family and I lived in Brooklyn, New York. Every Sunday, we would go to Coney Island. My favourite thing to do was to ride the roller coasters. The thing that attracted me to the roller coasters was the excitement of terror as I careened down the steep, rickety, seemingly dangerous tracks. The cars would be full of excited individuals old and young, sitting in anticipation of the imagined danger that we were in from the violently shaky machine that threatened to fall apart and throw us to our death.

One day as the cars rattled along the track, I became aware of the energy that was running through the group as it anticipating the imagined danger to come. We had created an illusion upon which to ride. As the cars got to the top of the ride, I thought, “Why am I screaming?” “I wonder what would happen if I did not scream?” I disconnected from the network of fear. I experienced the roller coaster as an observer and found that the only thing that made the event exciting was the mass hysteria that I had allowed myself to be locked into. That day at seventeen years old I disconnected from the fear matrix and never saw the world the same again. The times that I get caught in the hysteria, I feel, are when I am supporting the people around who require me to be small, weak and insignificant. I can see clearly the role that I play in the human matrix.

We each of us have chosen a side in this battle towards self-realization. Some of us use religion as the source of our comfort and security, while others use spirituality. We are grossly divided in our opinions of what should be done to ‘fix’ the world. We view each other as evil or not “in the light”. We judge each other’s spiritual progress while convincing ourselves that we are not judgmental. We tell others that they are devoid of light, which is why they are ill or in emotional distress. It is easy for us to look out at others and see what is wrong in the other person, as opposed to tangibly looking within and see the false truths that we feed ourselves about our lives.

Our self-denial is being used by fear to segregate us. We are being dragged in a wave of destruction toward the cliff of our own demise by our self-denial. What do you fear more than anything? This is a question that must be answered if mankind is to separate itself from the path of annihilation. When you are told that you are too confrontational and in people’s faces with your message. You should ask, “What makes my message so confrontational?” What makes this information and these questions so frightening? Is it that we are afraid of being removed from the cocoon of denial?

The illusion exists. Human history shows the extent of the illusion; A country is given permission to invade another in the name of planetary security to destroy weapons of mass destruction. The invasion occurred and the weapons of mass destruction were not found or used. If these weapons were found, what would the invading country do? Would they turn them upon the planet because it knows that humanity will follow it to the ends of the earth? The world economy faltered and is still struggling to recover. Then came SARS and other health scares. Are these events truth or another illusion?

When will we focus within and see that this is all designed to separate us from our truth? As we are being distracted from our personal power, by fearful world events we cannot spend our time moving toward our light.
We become distracted. We are distracted. How do we get off the rollercoaster of hysteria?
The only way is to move into the fetal position of our own inner search. Try not to make being “Spiritual” a status symbol the way, in the past we made being “religious” a status symbol.

Humility is a clear and fresh experience. Humility requires nothing to cause it to be. It is. We humans use each other’s pain and distress as the template from which we judge our own self-realization. We need someone less than ourselves in order for us to feel important. We need to have others less evolved than ourselves or in pain in order for us to feel important. This is the thing that fear uses to keep control over us. The social media shows powerful evidence of such. Shaming others from the anonymity of a computer screen. Look within and see, how many of us need to see our spouses and families in weaker states than ourselves in order to feel important?

We are not here to help anyone to become enlightened, we are here to see if we can consciously disconnect ourselves from the matrix of fear and see the illusion, as it is, an illusion.

Let’s give it a try, shall we?

Sonia Nadina helps you get through the layers of false information you have amassed upon your psyche over your life. She uses her ability to see to assist you to heal using the energy of your guides and the spirit and souls of your loved ones. During your session, your loved one will show up and share information that is relevant to you and supportive of your journey.

5 Ways Affirmations

5 Ways To Use Positive Affirmations To Enhance Your Life

Affirmations, self-talk, we use these every moment of the day and we use affirmations to motivate our progress through life. We say, “I am popular” and the universe says, “Yes you are”. The universe gives the same answer regardless of the self-talk we have with ourselves. The universe does not hear the negative so when we say, I don’t want debt, it replies, yes you want debt. There is a lot of information telling us how to manipulate the energy around us to get what we want. Ironically, energy although we can use it to work for us, is impossible to manipulate. Energy is our servant. It follows the workings of our unconscious and conscious mind. Whatever we want whether we are aware of it or not, goes out as a request to the universe and a response is returned in answer to our request. Most times, when we get what we think we’ve asked for, it shows up in a form we did not want. But our affirmations especially the unconscious, speaks louder than we are aware of.

Many of us see affirmations as operating only in the positive. But we affirm our lives always. Five ways that you can turn affirmations into a positive force for your lives will help you to find clarity.

One

Always be aware that you are in constant communication with the universe. Whatever you think is being interpreted every moment. A thought that is unsupportive to your needs, will show up as a failed experience.

Two 

Be aware that your childhood experiences do influence your mindset regardless of what you think you want. Go back to your childhood and look at the experiences you encountered. Then look at your life. If the two match, you are truly using your negative story to live your life now. For example if your parents struggled for money, you will usually, as the adult see money as a challenge to achieve. Coming from a wealthy family does not make you immune to limiting mindset about money. Coming from a wealthy family may make you feel shame about being “lucky”. The same as coming from a struggling family may leave you with a limited self-worth.

Three

Whenever you catch yourself with a negative or unsupportive thought, counter it with a positive thought. Agree with the negative and then respond, “Yes you are right, but let us see it this way”. Imagine your mind like an errant child. When you fight against your child by trying to get it to do what you want, it rebells.  When you are kind and positive with your child, it will respond in a positive way. Think about your mind as a well loved child will help you to shift into positivity.

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Being negative is not a bad thing. It shows you what you need to look at in order to have the life you want. Self-judgement is the addiction which corrals the human spirit. Becoming aware of when you are in self-judgement is important to your spiritual and emotional evolution.

Five

Celebrate when you have done something good. When you have overcome the negative story it is necessary to shine the light of approval on your accomplishment. Just like a child needs emotional encouragement, so do adults. Most times we cannot get encouragement from others so it is important to be the parent to our own inner child and give ourselves the encouragement that we deserve.

This world is all about negativity. In order to feel good it is necessary for us to feel bad and vice versa. Although it is frustrating, this is the only way to understand the human experience. Appreciate the negative affirmations, because it will lead you to the positive.

Sonia Nadina Haynes is an intuitive, emotional healer. She uses her gift of insight to help you shift through to a life that fits your dreams. Check out her latest book on Amazon. Generate Happiness through Positive Affirmations.

Website: www.soniahaynes.com  – Email: contact@soniahaynes.com

the-secret

The Secret Piece To The Secret by Sonia Nadina Haynes

In my arrogance, I tended not to go out and read or listen to other visionary’s work. I am calling myself arrogant because if I went out and checked them out I would be able to see where I fitted in the gaps they left behind. The book The Secret was given to me several years ago which I started to read it but didn’t finish. I already knew the information in The Secret. But, The Secret kept coming up in conversation and so I decided to watch the programme on Netflix.

Since The Secret was written in November 2006, a lot has happened on the planet. People kept losing everything. They read that book amongst others, watched the show, practiced the principles set down in the book, by visionaries and teachers, successful authors and quantum scientists. The message shared in the book related to The Law Of Attraction. The idea is that we have a dream and in order to attain that dream, it is necessary for us to release negative thoughts, embrace positive thoughts so that the positive is accessed by the universe which works with us to create our dreams.

To achieve this we need to keep and maintain the thought of what we want, like a new car, a good job and a loving relationship. I went on to Goodreads to look at some of the reviews on the book. The reviews fell along the wide extreme of five for how great the book is to one ‘what a load of sh*t’. I could see how The Secret made many people mad because they are trying to improve their lives with positive thinking but the positive thinking kept being overshadowed by negative thoughts. How does one fight an invisible foe that one does not even understand?

The book should have been called Beat Negative Thoughts And Realize Your Dreams. It is impossible to eradicate a thought you are not aware you are thinking. Thoughts have been a part of your psyche from the time you became consciously aware of your existence multiplying with each experience you encounter. How is it possible to get rid of the thoughts that are sending us along a path of lack and limitation? The Secret was on the right track but it was missing a big part of the message.

This part of the message is so important that it is impossible to shift your thoughts or your life without realizing it.

Our unconscious thoughts are like rhizomes in our minds. Rhizomes are non-photosynthetic plants that run and propagate under the soil. This means that these plants can survive in the dark, the way our unconscious thoughts require the fearful darkness of our minds to exist. I remember attempting to eradicate field horsetails from a patch of ground I was trying to make into a garden. I dug and dug to get to the lacework of roots that buried themselves deep into the soil. When I thought that I had removed all the horsetails, I went on to plant my roses and daisies, tomatoes and lettuce. A couple of weeks after, my garden looked good, up popped several horsetail plants. I pulled them out and soon another batch of horsetails popped up. I was beside myself!

All my good work was being ruined by these pests. I was told later by someone who ‘knew’ that pulling at the horsetail sent a shock wave into the plant causing it to grow even more. So my attempt at eradicating the horsetail by violently pulling to get it out of my garden was actually giving it the energy it required to propagate more voraciously. This is the same with the unconscious thoughts. When we fight against our perceived negative thoughts, we give it fuel to haunt us even more. This is the part that The Secret did not address. How do we remove the unconscious thoughts that keep returning and toppling our good efforts of positive thinking?

Come to my event THE POWER OF MONEY, MONEY, SPIRITUALITY AND YOU, on December 6 and see how to find the original root of your unconscious thought. Learn how to turn it into a positive source for creating the life you want. If you are afraid of having what you want, or want something really badly, it is possible to use the energy from the transmuted negative thoughts into creative energy to manifest what you want.

The Power Of Money – Money Spirituality & You – Brockville Public Library, Buell Room, 23 Beull Street, Brockville